If your child is 3 years or older, you might be surprised with the things he tells you at bedtime when things are less busy, more intimate and he is less guarded about his feelings. How do you get him to tell you these things?
What I like to do is to ask 3 questions at bedtime as part of the bedtime routine, right before we kiss, cuddle and say good night.
1. What made you happy/laugh today?
2. What made you sad/cry today?
3. What made you upset/angry today?
I find it very amusing when they tell me things that I didn’t notice in the day. When there were days that were upsetting to them, we would talk a little bit more about that. It is part of my listening time that I include every day, on top of other forms of listening time during the day.
Children need to feel safe and secure before they “let go” into sleep. Giving them the space to reflect their day helps them ease into feeling sleepy and have uninterrupted, restful sleep.
What would you add to the list?